From Guilt Ridden Parent to Happy Homeschooling Mom - An Interview with Daisy Virtudazo

May 9, 2018
by Jason Dulay 
Jason is the founder and CEO of Work from Home Roadmap and VA Bootcamp. Aside from teaching Filipinos how to succeed working from home, he likes traveling, playing board games, and drinking coffee.
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Watch another inspiring story on #JasSuccess as Daisy Virtudazo shares her journey to freelancing.

Daisy was a Physics and chemistry teacher turned call center agent. She's now an online business manager and she homeschools her 3 kids.

In this interview, Daisy tackles a lot including;

✅ Her humble beginnings and the lowest point in her life that made her turn into freelancing
✅ How she earns 6 figures as a homeschooling WAHM
✅ What sparked her interest in Online Business Management for coaches

and much more...

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Notables:

  • My time on earth is precious, and if you love someone, let them know, hindi lang through words, through text kasi diba,iba tayo ng love languages eh, merong iba gusto nila maririnig nila, yung iba gusto ma-ta-touch, iba gusto nila act of service, iba through gifts, whatever that is, let your love one knows that you loved them. Kiss them, hug them, embrace them, send them a text. That, your mother, that you haven’t called in a while, your dad, your siblings, your kids tell them you loved them, or if someone is hurt you, forgive, or if you hurt someone, just ask for forgiveness, kasi promise, you’ll never know life is gone in an instant, you’ll never know kung bukas andyan pa sila, or even ikaw, kung andyan ka pa, so that was one the biggest lesson na narealize ko na just be in the moment, and be in the present.
  • The better question is, how will I get myself out of this situation. And then I realize na ok, I can actually dictate how much I really want to earn, and then nung na-realize ko yung nag-invest ako in myself through courses, attending free webinars, talagang hinalungkat ko lahat because I want to specialize, I want to earn more.
  • I can take control how much I want to earn, and then it is not advisable, though for everyone na magbibili ng courses, pero at that time I needed to do that for me, to be able to realize what I want and I don’t want.
  • Study more, invest in yourselves talaga, kasi nga para alam mo yun, it's not an expense eh, if you think of the outcome of the results that will give you, its investment, so number one is to invest in yourself talaga.
  • It starts with the mindset, yung mindset shift I think its the biggest thing that help me more than the strategies. And the discovery call, pano mag present, its like how will you present yourself sa client ayan so, it starts with really understanding what their really needs are, kasi if we do kasi, if we ask questions, in return those questions like it appear an expert on that matter and then dahil alam natin tinanong natin sila we get to will drill down sa needs nila, and then now na alam na natin ang totoong kailangan nila, we get the package to our services to make it premium, so yun.
  • Surrounding yourself with those of people who had the symbols as you totally helps talaga.
  • I just want you to realize na you have the power to change your situation, just let that absorb nyo for a minute. You have the power to change your situation, you just have to decide na you had enough, I’m not gonna settle, I mean, once you decided that, then you can take action. Kasi you have the pen to the story that is your life, buhay mo yan so write it, and then live it the way you want it to especially now with the digital era, we can really do anything, so once you’re clear about that, next is you can make start taking actions and they don’t have to be drastic, just small steps basta sabi nga ni John consistently mong gagawin okay yun, kasi eventually it will lead you to your goals di ba.
  • I think the easiest way for you to know, get to your goal sooner, is by investing in yourself so it can be with courses that you see around that are inclined with your interest, or another way is finding a mentor, so look for the person who’s living the life that you want to live, and try to imitate, emulate what they’re doing and then tweak it later on to suit your life and your personality, I think that’s one of the easiest.
  • You have to realize that your decisions matter, everything that’s happening in your life right now is happening because you’ve allowed It to happen in the first place, so whatever situation you’re in, isipin mo why did you get there it’s because of those decisions, small decisions that built up to that moment, so you have to realize that you should not take it lightly, and make wise decisions that talaga.
  • You have to consider kasi, di ba with the freelancers ang daming lodis natin dyan and then may mga kasabayan tayo and then later on nakita mo, ay sila may progress ako wala, so naingit ka, that's normal, I feel that too and then again ako, that I wallowing that for a while, I need to feel it para mag kick in si Alpha brain na, uy tama na, allow that to happen and then reframe it, to tweak it into something positive, okay, sya nga nagawa nya yun, siguro kaya ko rin. Then reach out, kasi most of them naman, their very responsive and then yun nga eh, you have to definite your definition of success, what does success mean to you, time with the kids, business ba yan, talagang super bonga yung career mo and focus on that. Once you defined your.. you found the definition of success, like what does success mean to you. Focus on that, para di ka ma-drill and if may makita ka or mainggit ka okay fine, and then how can you achieve that too diba.
  • Focus on your own timeline nga, parang ito yung gusto mo, focus on your own timeline, baby steps and eventually you’ll get there, and last thing yung sinabi ko kanina which encompasses everything more than career, more than,you know your kids or ano, it's about life. Our greatest resources is time, so don’t worry too much about the past, yung yesterday tapos na yun eh, just learn from it and whatever you can grab on that, use it in the present, and then don’t worry too much in the future kasi it hasn’t happened yet, pero prepare, prepare a bit, but you won’t be, you know caught off guard. But really, live in the moment, because you’ll never know when your time is up or when your loved ones time is up, so maybe after this, live, go hug your spouse, your girlfriend, your sibling, your son or your kids, your dad, make them feel loved and if you’ve offended by someone, or hurt by someone, let know not just to also hear their side and then makapag-forgive kayo. Forgiving you know, lets all forget each other, those who hurt us, we forgive those we hurt, we apologize, kasi life is too short to carry all this unnecessarily grudges talaga, parang mas light lang diba parang happy ka your living the life you want and then you’re helping each other instead may sama kang loob dito, so yun, value your time, live in the now and then find your own definition of success. And if I can just end it Jason and with this, this is been like, dati kasi parang party life din yung motto ko eh, wohoo! Live life to the fullest, pero now to the one qoute that has helped me all throught those time is this one “start where you are, use what you have, do what you can”, so di mo kailangan maging ganto para magawa ito, hindi mo kailangan bilhin to muna, ay bili muna ako ng laptop para maka work, hindi mo kailangan maging somebody to achieve your goal, just be the baby step, so again start where you are, use what you can. Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can and then may edit lang ako. Do it the best what you can.

Daisy's Journey

  • She is the only child and raised by his father side with Lola and Titas.
  • Her family is all educators and they value education.
  • She graduated BS Education major in Physics.
  • The first job after she graduated was a Physics teacher. At the same time she also teaches Chemistry, General Science and with advisory class where former Presidents Erap Estrada and Gloria Arroyo studied.
  • She quieted her job as a teacher and applied for a call center to sustain the needs of her family.
  • She worked 4 years in a different call center before she decided to stay at home.
  • 2012-2013 she saw Odesk/Upwork.
  • Her first Upwork job was a customer representative outbound call in a Canadian client.
  • 2013-2104 is the lowest point of her life.
  • 2015 she started as a VA with 3 clients.
  • 2016 the breakthrough year of her life and realize what she did wrong and took the ownership of that.
  • 2017 she meets John Pagulayan, who taught her how totally change how she does things.
  • 2017 she also became an OBM or Online Business Manager.
  • She is now a happy homeschooling mom to her 3 kids.
  • She starts with her day with a cup filled. She chose her own schedule and homeschooling with her children.
  • Her affirmation: “Greater things are coming my way”.

Q & A

Pero what is your thought process na you said, you decided na you're not gonna do this anymore, when you were undergoing the training pero what made tha,t parang you made the decision?

Its really the guilt na I am going to work na mahaba yung commute ang nasa mind ko lang were my kids, na they’re growing up with the yaya not me, at ang seen noong may influencer ng buhay ng anak ko yung yaya hindi ako, parang I can’t deal with the fact. I wanna be the main influence in my kid’s life, I wanna be able to teach them first more than anything else, so parang tapos at one time, parang mas gusto nung kasama anak ko, yung second ko yung yaya nya.

Ang sakit, parang ang sabi ko, parang yung responsibility ng pagiging nanay napunta na dun sa yaya although ginagawa ko yung role as a provider, as a mom, pero parang hindi pwedeng ganon, kaya nung I transfer upon a home article of Brother Bo Sanchez sabi ko, it resonated so much with me na, this is the life I want for my kids, na I get to teach them, I get to be with them, I get to be the main influencers in their lives, talagang yung bond ba namin mas ma-strengthen. Kaya right after nung training hindi na ako nag-proceed. Sabi ko kay Chubby, Chubby is my husband pala, sabi ko I cannot do this anymore.

Di ba double income kayo, is it wasn’t enough at that time?

Hindi rin, parang its a matter of choosing which is more important talaga eh, so kung magiging single income nalang, ang laking mawawala pero the urge to just raise my kids as a mom surpass yung need na kailangan big income. Will make do with my husband income, and then will go from there. So that’s what happened, so nawalan ako ng work, si Bilog nalang gumagawa ng work.

What year have you seen Odesk/Upwork?

I started 2012-2013 nakita ko na sya noon pa, tapos okay, gawa akong profile, kaso diba ang daming gagawin nakakatamad, totoo ba ito, eh may work pa ako nun, so I only go back to Odesk or Upwork pag yung ka-dramahan ko sobra na naman. Hindi, I will make this happen parang ganoon, tapos balik sa work, balik sa work, pero that time a situation called for it eh, sa bahay lang ako, so sayang yung time, so naghanap ako. I brought my profile in Upwork and then I took test. Ang una ko palang naging job, kasi yung kinumplete ko yung Upwork profile ko wala paring nag invite so sabi ko ano kaya ang pwede ko pang gawin, saan ba ako magaling, sabi ko I can speak well siguro pwedeng magturo ng English, so gi-noogle ko literal, english jobs from home, lumabas si Rare Jobs, I don’t know if your familiar para syang, yeah, Rare Jobs and then dun ang tinuturaan ko ay Japanese clients na parang conversational English, grammar, business English. So masaya sya, in away kaso its not enough, kasi parang 120 per hour ako and then booking system sya. Lets say, mag-o-open ako ng slot 9-12,mag-iintay ako, minsan walang mag-bo-book, at kung may mag-bo-booked man last minute.

When did you started as VA?

I started 2015, at nag start ako mag-VA, dumami ang mga clients ko na mga May 2015 and then I even saw your ad, at nakita ko, I PM you, I don’t know if you may recall, parang yung ad mo is, earn 80k from home four hours a day, so iPM you right away, sabi ko “hi Jason almost ganoon narin ang earnings ko pero hindi four hours a day, its sixteen hours” sabi kong ganoon. I think you invited me to be beta tester.

Are you a wonder mom?

I am just a mom with a big why, and its all by God’s grace that we are able to survive it, even like all of us di ba, if you look back at our lowest moments, na-survive mo diba, na kahit walang-wala ka, na-survive mo, and its because God is lifting us through those time parang ma-survive natin yun. I know I did something, I took action definitely, pero without His help and guidance then I wouldn’t.

Can you share some of the small things, like, that you changed because, you mentioned di ba like, you were living in the present at that time?

When it comes with finances naman kasi parang you know, common source na parang pagiging powerless namin, we became very intentional with how we stand our money, so diba yung formula na usual is parang salary, expenses, save, kami talaga wala. And we became intentional na salary, savings, pay yourself first and then the rest, yun lang ang pakasyahin like sa expenses or something, basta lang meron kaming pang rainy day fund. I don’t want to say emergency kasi parang negative framing, so yun, positive, rainy day fund na and then, so, it doesn't want to be big enough na kung ano lang ang maitatabi you have to set an amount siguro 20 percent of each, di ba ilang clients, so marami na yun and then if you can increase it a little every time and then it helps, its yung small baby steps nga.

And then another is really investing in myself, when I say pay myself, so I saved another way is by, kasi okay I analyze, and I begin, kung anong ginagawa ko ngayon, and I still wanna do this, if no, okay anong gusto kong gawin next, and then naghahanap ako ng free, kung meron kasi the problem with that is, ang dami and then if its free parang you take it for granted in a way diba, so parang naghahanap talaga ako ng trustworthy na alam mo yun, mentor na gumagawa ng course and I invested in that, yun.

And then third is yun nga, just being mindful na whenever bad things happen, mahilig kasi akong mag wallow eh, na prang paawa effect kasi I need to cry, I need to let, emotional ako in that way, need to feel it na talagang to the core of my bones and then okay tama na Daisy, OA na and then reframe it na parang okay, how will you get, that’s a question eh, how did you get there, how will you get yourself out of that situation, and then yun isipin ko na, and then yung solution ba dun sa how will you get yourself out doesnt have to be big, parang yung una din ano ang pinakamadali mong pwedeng gawin na now na, kasi kapag oh ito ganto, parang ang dami kong plano, hindi now na parang alam ko kung ano ang next step, then the next step that you can do to change your situation yun ung ginagawa ko.

How do you get into that kind of frame of mind to make that shift from “oh you know I feel sad I’m so pitiful because it happened into looking at it and saying okay what can I do at this point”?.

Okay, so let me go back during that time I had, I was grieving pa nga pero kasi sometimes, I think that moment was, parang its really the only choice eh, I have alam mo yun, kung mag-wa-wallow ako at mag-self-pity mode, unfair naman sa husband ko, and then wala naman kaming maasahang iba, so, and also, I think what helped is because I was raised by an army of strong independent women like my aunts and lolas na parang, okay, you know. We definitely need to grieve, you know, those emotions are alright, but then you have to just know for yourself eh, iba-iba tayo ng timeline, pero, okay your greiving, pero at the point you need to know, you need to stop, kasi otherwise kasi, what you focus on expands, if you just keep focusing on the negative, so kawawa or wala, you’re just gonna attract more scarcity, more problem, so you have to realize that you need to stop. And then paano mo mababago, ganoon kasi iniisip ko, like even now na parang hindi naman ganoon ka-drastic yung mga nangyayari sa buhay ko, thankfully, thank you Lord, kapag may problema ina-acknowledge ko talaga yung feeling, na naiinis ako, naiinis ako, iiyak ako, kakape ako, naiinis ako, I need to let myself feel it. And then pag na-feel ko na sya ang ta-take-in na si brain, na parang okay, what do you do next, kasi the world will not stop, the world does not care if ganyan ka, and meron kang family to support, so anong gagawin mo. I think that what helps me keep, you know move forward, just acknowledging it, allowing myself to feel the feeling, and then let go, and then think of ways to change my situation.

How do you manage your time homeschooling your two kids and then work in the afternoon? May natitira ka ba na lakas?

Yes, meron pa naman kasi nga yun eh, you have to start with what kind of life do you want to live, what’s your goal. What is success mean to you, for me ito yun eh, like even though hindi ako billionaire or something, this is successful for me, and then again nga priorities, priority kong mag-homeschool eh, and then, kasi yun nga homeschooling it's not school at home, so you don’t segment the subjects, what happens with me especially the elder kids ko, matanda na sila, they can learn independently na.

So si Tweet nalang kasi mag-ge-Grade 1 sya, but if you think about it sa elementary, Grade 1 to Grade 6, let say sa grammar, paulit-ulit yan, pati yan, what is a noun, verb, adjective, pronoun, diba paulit-ulit sila, and then what will have multiple aged kids, you just increase the intensity or yung level of difficulty, o si Tweet mag-noun ngayon, si DJ Grade 4, noun na naman ito, para sa paragraph, na alam mo yung ganoon, you can combine subjects and then integrated yung lesson. Let say ang topic is a cycle of butterfly, that topic alone, ang dami nang subjects meron nang Science, Vocabulary, Comprehension, may Math, like, ilang days from egg to caterpillar to ganun, and then may art, you let them draw, and then may history, find books about you know butterflies.

Homeschooling is not school at home, its a lifestyle, and it's an extension of parenting, and so even though the lessons are done na for the day, kasi sabi ko from 1 pm tapos na homeschooling, it isn’t end there, because homeschooling taught about the relationship that you have in your kids, the interactions that you do with them daily.

It's amazing, kasi right now, they’re aware na they see the value of work, like my daughter, she makes a painting and she aproach me na parang, mama 'di ba you do courses, can I do this, parang, oo nga 'no, 'di ba entrepreneurial. I wanna raise my kids to be entrepreneurial minded, and then homeschooling really allowed me to help support them to pursue their passion early on palang na-bi-build na, gumagaling habang bata palang walang wasted time. I think that’s the one thing na kaya siguro nahihirapan yung iba ma-picture, kasi akala nila, o 9-10 Math, 10 to ano, no, I make my lesson integrated para relax, ayoko ko kasi silang ma-pressure, learning should be fun 'di ba, so let them worry about that sa college, pero now, if you look at it like years from now with those Math worksheets really matter, gusto mo bang maalala ng anak mo na si mama lagi akong sinisigawan, di ko alam yung multiplication ng 8 times 6, di ba, it won't matter.

What will matter is yung relationship mo with your child, so yeah, kaya sya doable cause I make it integrated, and then yun nga, dahil filled na yung happy cup ko, I can do work more productively kasi wala na akong guilt feeling na naku, di ko yata naturuan, so my cup is filled as diba, sa morning the cup is filled as me, sa morning naman ng 9-1, my cup is filled as a mom and a teacher.

I do my thing as they see the, you know OBM or whatever sa hapon, and then before sleeping chika-chicka, and then what helps pala, yung kasi si Chubby Bilog kasi, he really been very supportive of me all throughout this process, I wouldn’t be able to do what I do. Siguro nakikita nyo sya kasama ko sya sa mga events, he will be more active soon, dahil sikat na sya kasama ko sya sa mga meet ups.

Can you share your blogs, homeschooling group?

My blog is the homeschoolingwham.com or para mas madali since we're all on facebook just search happy homeschooling moms.

Do you have a helper doing for household chores?

No we don’t, we used to noong nag-c-call center pa ako, dalawa pa siya, pero kasi yung na experience yung manakawan, muntik ng makuha ang second daughter ko, so parang I couldn’t risk it, even after that incident we had helpers pero nawawala sila, pag mag-advance and I think now, kasi my kids are grown na so we don’t need it. I mean part din ng homeschooling yung everyone is included in the dynamic sa work life parang okay, may eldest son, siya yung maghuhugas sa plato sa morning at dinner, yung daughter ko lunch and merienda, si Tweet taga-set ng table, parang it's part eh, that ano na, HELE if Grade 4, so parang yun na, yung everything is incorporated in real life in homeschooling. It’s not what you think it is na, you know, yung common misconception.

Nagkaroon ba sila ng formal school? 

Tweet never did, like si Krisy. Si Tweet since birth homeschooled, pero my two eldest they were school at once kaso what happened was na-bore sila, and then alam mo yung pagdaan ko sa school one time ang sinusulat sa board “isang daan apat napu't apat, isang apat na putlima”, sabi ko may gosh, relevance, tapos isang beses sabi nila sabi ni teacher etch (H) daw sabi ko, no baby, 'di ba parang the basics, I’m a teacher so I respect teachers, pero parang ganun, na parang sabi ko, ay siguro naman kaya kong turuan, Physics yung naturo ko sa high school, siguro I want to, may set up naman, and then once you realize it's not really just another educational option, it's a lifestyle, it's an extension of your parenting, mas ma-ga-grasp mo sya guys. So join na kayo sa group.

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by Jason Dulay 
Jason is the founder and CEO of Work from Home Roadmap and VA Bootcamp. Aside from teaching Filipinos how to succeed working from home, he likes traveling, playing board games, and drinking coffee.

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119 comments on “From Guilt Ridden Parent to Happy Homeschooling Mom - An Interview with Daisy Virtudazo”

  1. It was truly inspiring po Ms.Daisy. Just saw this link sa gmail from Sir Jason and I am so glad and blessed na marinig po yung Story niyo 🙂. SAHM ako for now and FTM din and been planning to switch my workcareer from being employee in a private company to homebased online job just to have an ample time with my daughter and family. 🙂

  2. It was truly inspiring po Ms.Daisy. Just saw this link sa gmail from Sir Jason and I am so glad and blessed na marinig po yung Story niyo . SAHM ako for now and FTM din and been planning to switch my workcareer from being employee in a private company to homebased online job just to have an ample time with my daughter and family.

  3. Yang ang feeling ko right now..i want to work without leaving my kids..so i need online job pra di na malayo sa mga anak ko.. 😊😊😊😊😊

  4. Learned a lot from your experience Daise. Never give up when we are in a dire situation. Look up and seek the Lord. He will give you wisdom as you ask Him without finding fault.

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